• 07 JUN 17
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    Secrets of self esteem and how cultivate it

    Secrets of self esteem and how cultivate it

    Do you feel bad about your self and find it hard to complete anything?

    Learn where that comes from and a few simple ways to start liking yourself more today


    Have you ever noticed that feeling down or low is often preceded by a negative thought.

    Does this sound familiar:

    Thought: I don’t ever finish anything

    Feeling: Sad, angry, irritable

    Thought: I can’t do anything, what’s wrong with me?

    Feeling: Down, hopeless

    And so it goes on…

    Repeating this loop over time sets up a self-belief that limits you.

    Are you likely to do anything if you feel bad about yourself?

    Chances are you won’t.

    Self-esteem can be cultivated by practicing self-love even in the midst of our so-called ‘faults’. Here’s how to get the ball rolling

    When you have a negative thought about yourself and your abilities try these three things:

    • Write a list of the things you have done/ accomplished recently.
      Make it fun and light e.g. I made a tasty cup of tea, I take care of my pets by …


    • Accomplish a simple task by:
      Writing the first step of a the task, e.g. if you want to clear out your cupboards. First task – Get box to put old clothes in.Then complete the first task and so on.


    • Be kind to your self by doing something nice for yourself.
      Ask yourself what you would do for a friend to cheer her up and try that. For example buy your self flowers, read your favorite magazine, take a bubble bath, go for a drive, have a soothing cup of tea, etc.


    Motivate yourself by asking who will benefit from your completing a task or being happier and relaxed?

    Now celebrate your accomplishments by a doing a happy dance.

    images happy dance

    Now I’d like to hear from you.


    What do you do when you feel down about yourself?

    Try one of the above and reply to let me know how it went.

    If you want a cool, fun way to help you try out the suggestions click here for a checklist of steps to cultivate self-esteem.

    And if you’re looking for more support with self-esteem look out for my women’s self care/ self esteem group coming up in July.

    If you know anyone who might be struggling with self esteem share this with them.

    I look forward to hearing form you.


    Dr G Chiba



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