It is 6am on the day of reconciliation as I write this. It has been many months since I have sent out a newsletter. I have about 10 drafts and outlines in both virtual and actual folders. Over the past few months I have attempted to send them out at various times. I have felt motivated, annoyed, guilty, determined and even frustrated in this process. I tried to ‘analyse’ why I wasn’t sending it out. All of this, as you can see has added up to more time and effort in not sending one out then to have just sent out the first one I wrote months ago.
I realized that the effort in not doing it had become more than the effort of actually doing it, which is often the case when we keep putting something off. Now I can try and continue to analyse why I was doing this, maybe I was scared of not getting it right, or it being irrelevant or not getting a response. The reason why became irrelevant yesterday when one of my patients asked me, ‘What happened to your blog?’ After all these months it suddenly became clear, I didn’t have blog anymore because I wasn’t writing. Period. That was a simple fact.
I then made a deal with her that I would send one out by the end of the year.
Her simple question allowed me to reconcile with myself that I had fallen off the writing wagon. Surprisingly I thought I still had a blog, as I would often mention it when seeing new patients. As the Buddha said,
“Don’t believe everything you think”
Reconciling my self to this I truth, I was able to accept the situation exactly the way it is. This acceptance, seeing things the way they are, without judgment, and with a dose of kindness, allowed me to move forward.
And suddenly boom, here I am, writing and … SENDING.
To all the friends, family and patients who have asked me about the blog, thank you so much for your encouragement. This post is dedicated to you.
On this Day of Reconciliation, I am reminded of the master of reconciliation and my hero, Nelson Mandela, who said,
Have you put something off for a long while, or maybe fallen off the wagon. Is there a pile of mail to open, a drawer to clear out, or have you promised yourself you would go to the gym, or start eating healthy.
If so, I have a challenge for you:
- What would you like to reconcile within yourself?
Lets dedicate this to the Day of reconciliation. Historically, the 16th December is a reflection of change in South Africa. It has evolved from being the Day of the Covenant in 1838 to the formation of Umkhonto we Sizwe (MK) in 1961 to it being named the Day of Reconciliation in 1995, signifying both the Afrikaner and liberation struggles. We all have our own internal and external struggles. Lets use this historic day as an opportunity to restore friendly relations with our selves.
- What’s one tiny step you can make to get ‘back on the wagon’?
Maybe you can put on your gym shoes, or swop decaf coffee for regular or have one less pull of your cigarette and instead take one mindful breath. It just has to be a small change, because all huge changes start with that one step. Go ahead and take it.
If you need a little inspiration you can sing to the late Aaliyah’s lyric-
“If at first you don’t succeed
Then dust yourself off and try again.
You can dust it off and try again, try again”
Let me know how it goes in the comments below.
In the spirit of reconciliation I would like to offer you a free training, called the 5-minute for 5 days change challenge. It’s to help you bring any kind of change in your life. You will learn simple ways to start making changes in your life, in just 5 minutes a day. Look out for its launch next week. You don’t need to wait until the new year to make a change, you can start NOW.
Once again thank you for your kind support and interest.
Have a beautiful day.
Take care and keep creating a life of joy NOW.
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